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VHS Fun

After a pretty busy Saturday, T and I spent all of Sunday in our PJs. I made breakfast, we did a 500 piece puzzle, and then I had the brilliant idea to get out my old TVCRDVD (circa 2004) to show T the VHS tape of the 2 times I was on TRL, once in 11/01 as part of a university programming board trip my freshmen year and once in 01/03 when Maroon5 made their TRL debut (I kinda knew Maroon5 back in the day so I was on their list to get in the studio with my sister). T was pretty amused. Watching old music videos and old commercials were even more amusing.

We then watched a few VHS videos I made in college, hilarious and embarrassing. Finally we watched a family home movie from 1989-1990. I was freaking adorable. T thought I pretty much look exactly the same. It was a crazy trip down memory lane. It was fun to hear my dad’s voice on film since he always took the video and rarely was in it. 

I enjoyed sharing so much of my old self with T, super special stuff. 

Looking for an Equal

In one episode of HIMYM they discuss how in most relationships there is a reacher and a settler. Putting aside how often that is the case for relationships in general, I was thinking about my relationships. 

–possible trigger warning for some folks about ego/insecurities– 

Most of my more successful relationships have been ones where I was in my mind “the settler.” Now don’t get me wrong I’ve done my fair share of “reaching” however it’s really never worked out, I generally end up hurt.

I think a lot of relationship dynamics for me come down to my self-esteem/confidence or lack there of at times. My insecure self has usually found comfort or safety for my fragile ego with someone when I think I’m more of a catch (be it that I was more educated or attractive or happy or caring or cultured, etc).

A big part of caring for someone else is first caring for yourself. I’m better at caring for myself when my ego is inflated. As a Leo, I’ve read so much about how we are really delicate kittens behind our roars. I am such a queen of bravado. I’ve been stuck with a bum wrap for having a big head/ego at times, but it was a tactic I used to say things about myself that I WISHED other people were saying or thinking about me.

I guess what I’m trying to say is at after almost 7 months with T, I couldn’t figure out between us who is reaching and who is settling. I feel like he’s such a catch, but I also feel really good about myself and us. What I’ve come to realize is it’s because I think I’ve found an equal.

I’ve never been in a relationship where I feel like we are on the same level. With T it’s such a back and forth of learning, compliments, humor, caring, sharing, etc. I’m just so happy it’s grotesque and I can’t believe (in a wonderful way) that he’s as happy with me as I am with him. 

Sorry I felt like I needed to word vomit this post, I’ll try and get back to our regularly scheduled posts! 

NYC Christmas Funsies

T just booked his bus ticket to NYC for the day after Christmas. I’m excited to show him Christmas in New York!

I have a lot on our agenda – all the classic NYC Christmas stuff, but if anyone has any suggestions of unique/new things worth checking out let me know. 

Also I’m going to get us tickets to the 9/11 museum, any advice on how long we should plan to be there? I’m hoping to do an AM timeframe ticket, but just want to plan accordingly. 

PS – he *might* be meeting my mom whilst in NY. my mom and I aren’t close, but I know it’d be a big deal for her since I’ve never brought anybody home before. 

Sloth and Gluttony

Good God this weekend was awesome. I managed to squeeze in SOME of my to do list, but I mostly spent the weekend on the couch with T and it was glorious.

Friday

  • After work I ran 3 miles with Freddie
  • Then had a very exciting networking call with a women in Southern California who works at a school I’m interested in work at
  • Went to T’s who has the apt to himself all weekend so I brought groceries and cooked him a healthy dinner there (I even got him to eat brussel sprouts – the key is a LOT of lemon pepper)
  • We then watched his favorite childhood Christmas movie Jingle All the Way (which I had never seen)
  • We then ate some yummy Pepperidge chocolate cake with cool whip (T was in charge of dessert)

Saturday (It was rainy and gross all day)

  • We slept in and snuggled
  • Went to Rustico for brunch mmm (we were sitting next to an older couple who were very lovey dovey and it lead to an enlightening conversation)
  • I then took T to my favorite little random shop – it’s actually called “The Variety Store” and we spent over an hour browsing. I picked up some little Christmas gifts and a gingerbread house because T said he had never decorated one!
  • We then braved the Pentagon City Mall to go to Bath and Body works to get Fresh Balsam candles since T is obsessed with the ones in my apt. I foolishly picked up a drugstore Christmas candle for his place and it just wan’t cutting it so we knew we had to hit the mall
  • While I the mall I was able to run into MAC to get mascara
  • We then stopped by Macy’s to look at winter coats. T is still wearing his North Face Fleece and it’s too cold. I found an awesome Kenneth Cole Peacoat that T loved, but they didn’t have a Large. Good news I did find it online so I hope he buys it! We also looked at Women’s coats because the one I bought online came, but I’m still on the fence and for $170 I really don’t want to be on the fence.
  • We spontaneously decided to continue our lazy weekend (we don’t usually spend 2 nights in a row together) so we swung by my apt to grab Freddie since I missed him and I grabbed some Christmas movies.
  • We came back to T’s and put on my all-time favorite Disney Christmas singalong from the 80s (which was remastered and includes new songs/cartoon which are nowhere near as good). We also watched “All I Want for Christmas” with Ethan Embry and Thora Birch another 90s favorite of mine
  • Together we put together the gingerbread house and decorated it which was really fun, T got into it. Pictures here
  • We then ate the leftovers from last night’s dinner and more dessert before T, Freddie and I all piled into bed.
  • T jokes about how Freddie likes him more and how Freddie is going to live with him. So while at T’s I have him the responsibility of walking Freddie hehe

Sunday

  • T and I were up early, maybe because we were in bed early and Freddie was jumping around
  • T lives in a little town center type thing so we walked down to the shops to grab coffee and a breakfast sandwich
  • We came back and watched some of The Office (one of his favorite shows) and HIMYM (one of my favorite shows). We are on season 3 of both.
  • I had grand plans to come home and run, but I bailed because it was cold and getting dark (however I’m forcing myself to do 5 treadmill miles after work today since I missed yesterday)
  • Instead I caught up on my neglected DVR and did my nails.
  • After having a super busy WEEK last week I didn’t mind a lazy weekend. I hope to find more of a balance this week/weekend.